“Working with Nic has been one of the most transformational experiences of my life. His approach is much different than traditional therapy in that it supported me to experience myself more expansively rather that developing a better or more winning idea about myself. Highly recommend if you want support in how to live the day-to-day stuff while abiding in the Self.”
What is psychotherapy? It is essentially a deeply attuned conversation that aims to help you understand and resolve your challenges. Psychotherapeutic conversation happens within the space of a trusting relationship. This allows the process of revelation, exploration, understanding, and resolution to flourish. Feeling understood creates an experience of security, which nurtures a unique mind-body-being exploration, as well as self-awareness and the possibility of making peace with your world.
What is nonduality? Nonduality is the recognition that everyone and everything is one in essence. What we truly are is unlimited, undivided and eternal. All suffering is due to the perception of separateness. We can rediscover our natural unity with all while experiencing life through this temporary human form. Often called awakening, or enlightenment, this profound appreciation unveils nondual qualities, such as peace, belonging, connection and clarity. Aligning with these qualities brings psycho-spiritual integration and holistic healing.
Therapy is about healing, and true healing is about rediscovering nonduality – our natural wholeness. Suffering is based on the misperception of separateness. In nondual therapy, we identify desire-fear ‘distortions’ associated with ‘qualities’ of the One Self. The distortions are aspects of the ‘limited self’ or ‘ego’. They are parts of us that have become frozen in time through essential unmet needs, especially in childhood. Consequently, as adults, we often live in a state of desire and fear (grasping and aversion) and this dualises our experience. The distortions seem to block the truth of our ultimate oneness and thus our experience of the qualities, such as connection, love, clarity and joy. The qualities are like nourishing food or healing medicine that seem to be out of reach. In truth, they are ever-present no matter what.
Through guided meditation, experiential inquiry and exploration we unravel and soften somatic contractions and ideas associated with the distortions. The process unlocks the qualities of Self that the facets of the ego veil. This ultimately deepens your understanding of nonduality; you don’t simply understand nonduality with the mind but come to embody this truth within your whole being.
Counselling is an accepting, trusting, and safe empathic relationship. Within this relationship, you will be supported to meet, express, and accept your most challenging feelings and thoughts. You will develop the courage and self-confidence to integrate what you have discovered and to make the necessary changes that serve you.
Research shows that counselling is an effective way to deal with anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, loss and other mental health issues. It helps people through having the opportunity to think, feel and be while being listened to, and is therapeutic. I have undergone training, hold qualifications and have a depth of experience in working therapeutically. Counselling is non-judgmental and takes place in a confidential setting, allowing you to freely share the things that concern you.